The 7 Golden Rules in Relationships pt 2

There are different kinds of relationships. Have clean fun.......be fun to be with.

The 7 golden rules are:
Summary
• Measure value to others: add value or worth to others.
• Do unto others what you want people to do to you: The way I want to be treated is the way I should treat people.
• Overcome your insecurities: “Perfect love casts out all fear.” Insecurities and fear hinder us from relating to properly or rightly with others. Before you can “fix” others, “fix” yourself.

1. Knowledge of yourself and others: Know the truth about yourself. Who am I? It will help me know how to relate to others. Know my personality and temperament as this will assist me in choosing my friends wisely. Every temperament and personality has its strengths and weaknesses. One isn’t better than the other so be secure in it. Know your limitations. As a leader, don’t just choose people who are like you. Know others also. Know why you react the way you do. Are things out of sync? Do we expect too much from people? Let people be themselves or else you’ll drive them away. You can help people to change for the better but don’t try to change people to be like you. Our differences enhance our lives. Know people, know what makes them tick etc. “The secret to leadership and knowing how to relate to people is to know their temperament.”

2. Use words wisely: Know the importance of words. They have creative power. Proverbs 18:20. Be generous on praise and economical on rebuke and criticism. Proverbs 18:6 – 7, Proverbs 12:18, Proverbs 18:19, James 1:19 – 20, Proverbs 14:17, Proverbs 25:11 – 12, Proverbs 10:31 – 32. Let your words be few. Be sensitive to the person’s temperament. What is the quality of your relationship with them? Know what people are ready for. Give people permission to speak into your life. Proverbs 9:7- 8. Learn to say “I’m sorry”. Humble yourself Proverbs 15:1 – 2

3. Leave something of yourself with people to remember you by: Let it be a pleasure indeed for people to meet you. What if you’ll never see them again? Contribute something for them to think about. Let your words be seasoned with salt. Be gracious and offer yourself to people. Be self-giving. Leave a legacy – not only material things but a good name. Touch people’s lives, pray for people, be a blessing! You don’t always have to have the last word. “You can win an argument and lose a friend.” James 3:17, Proverbs 18:24

4. Invest in yourself: “You cannot give what you don’t have.” Pray, study, develop yourself. Have a balanced life and manage your life well. Rest, look good and take care of yourself.